A man walks out his office door for the last time after 33 years of employment. Even though he's excited about not having to wake up each day at 5:30 am, and he professes he won't miss being on call 24/7, he still feels wistful that he has reached the end of his career as a police captain. "Everything changes," he thinks to himself as he places the last box of memorabilia in his trunk. Then he drives off into the scary world of retirement.
This scenario,
Some people have a difficult time finding love because they sabotage their own budding relationships. This means that instead of letting a connection develop gradually, they may seek to control or test the other person for several reasons. If a person finds himself or herself alone, even after being successful at getting first, second, and even third dates, he or she may want to investigate the idea of self sabotage.
For those raised in dysfunctional households, finding love may be
Some relationships must end. For instance, in cases of physical and mental abuse, contact should be cut off in order for healing to begin. In other cases, where the hurts don't run quite so deep, a relationship can many times be salvaged. And in some cases, it may again flourish. This applies to relationships between friends, siblings, parents and children, and even spouses. If a relationship should be fought for, then the following tips may help to begin the healing process.
Be the Bigger Person
When talking to my twenty year-old daughter a few days ago, I learned that her friend of 15 years had excluded her from a get together yet again. This friendship, although years old, has been deteriorating slowly, but steadily. I suggested that she distance herself from this person, since my daughter continually complains of being hurt by her.
She replied, "I can't let go; she was my best friend, Kindergarten through ninth grade." But this is exactly what she needs to do - let go. Although it may be
Their eyes meet, and it's instant chemistry. They both smile as they gravitate toward each other. Soon they engage in conversation. Twenty minutes later he asks for her number. One of them thinks it's been fun talking to a like minded person, and the other is already thinking about the engagement ring.
It doesn't matter who has jumped the gun, the man or the woman. What does matter is the fact that trying to rush a new relationship usually ends in disaster. Intrigued? If yes, read on
