If you tend to be introverted, making friends (and keeping them) can be a taxing endeavor.  For some, even attending social gatherings to meet and mingle can prove exhausting. Because of this, it might seem easier to avoid the work of building lasting relationships.
Don’t choose that route, as having strong relationships can benefit you in many ways.  Curious? Read on to learn more about the positives of having friends, even it you classify yourself as an introvert.
Studies show that having friends, people you can count on in good and bad times, helps to you actually live longer. It makes sense that if you don’t isolate yourself, and you surround yourself with people who care about you – even if its only two or three best friends – then you will have a better chance of surviving illnesses such as breast cancer. Never underestimate the positive power of having people in your corner.
Another reason to make friends is that they can provide you with opportunities to grow and to learn. For instance, I learned how to take part in the sport of curling last winter from a new co-worker (and new friend). Again, if you extend the hand of friendship, you will be given a chance to learn about another person’s perspective on life. What better way to exercise the neurons in you brain?
Friends also provide something so simple, you might not think that it’s important; however, having this in your life will only enrich it. This magic ingredient? FUN. Sure, you might enjoy your own company, and you can even crack jokes. Problem is…you already know the punch line. Having a friend whose sarcasm or witty one liners keep you laughing will make your life that much more enjoyable.
Here’s another way to view the importance of fun. When you were a child, wasn’t it always more fun when you were in a group playing tag or a game of baseball? Being a loner can be fulfilling, but having a group of friends to do group activities provides much fun to daily routines. And you don’t have to participate in sports. Quiet activities, such as book clubs or even sewing circles can be enjoyable.
A final reason an introvert should tackle making friends – it forces us to think of other people. Face it. If you like your own company best, you may become overly concerned with yourself. You may develop the tendency to be a hypochondriac…or worse. In essence, the more you allow yourself to be a complete hermit, the harder it will be to be social when you do want to be, because who wants to listen to you if you only offer a litany of aches and pains?
I am an introvert. Maybe you are too. Don’t let this fact stop you from loving other people. Although it may be harder for us to make friends, it is well worth the effort. The benefits far outweigh the drawbacks.
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