Finding Mr. (or Ms.) Right can be a difficult process. This is because we all hope to find a mate who shares similar interests and values (such as exercising with dualfit), and one who loves us a much as we love him or her. And to top it off, we want chemistry, a physical attraction that helps to bind the relationship as well. Sound like a complicated process? To help you make better choices while dating, make sure you pay attention to the following red flags.
1. Broken Promises
When dating someone, he or she should follow through on unsolicited promises. For example, I dated a charismatic gentleman. He was witty, interesting, and handsome, yet he never seemed to manage to do what he said he was going to do. For example, he promised to fill my car with gas and to run it through the car wash. He promised to do this at least ten times during a year-long relationship, yet he never came through. This empty promise became especially maddening to me, as he always wanted me to drive to his house! Red flag number one.
2. Cheap Beyond Reason
In this economy, many people struggle to make ends meet, and dating can be an expensive process; however, if you are dating someone who brags about how much money he or she has, yet they never seem to pay for a meal or a movie without complaining, then you should take notice. I briefly dated a gentleman who owned a new home, who drove a luxury vehicle, and who wore expensive clothing. He had the best of everything, but he didn’t want to share any of it. On our first date he made it a point to divide one meal into two, and he took me to a music festival with tickets he received for free. On top of that, he said I should pay for the beer and treats at the festival to make things “even.” He was so cheap that I could almost hear him squeak as he walked. Red flag number two.
3. No One Likes Him or Her
You’ve probably heard this before, but if no one likes your new boyfriend or girlfriend…run! Your family and your best friends have your interests in mind, and if they don’t like the person you are dating, listen very carefully. And when strangers tell you tales about how awful this man or woman has been to others, take heed. Sometimes men and women can be so charming that you hope that they are the wonderful person that they present themselves to be, but if they act differently to your family and friends, and if they have a long history of trampled hearts, listen to those who love you. Red flag number three – beware a wolf in sheep’s clothing!
These are just three of the relationship red flags that you shouldn’t ignore. If the man or woman you are smitten with never keeps promises, if he or she never wants to treat you, or no one likes him or her…watch out.
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